Ask a (S)expert: "What's Sexual Self-Care?"
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"What's sexual self-care?"
Hey bae! Great question for so many reasons. Often when people think of self-care and respect, they assume it can't coincide with sex. After all, society teaches us that self-respect can only be shown in conservative ways, for example, abstaining. However, self-care and self-respect should reflect your true needs and desires. So, whether you choose to abstain or dabble in casual sex, you're exercising your right to choose. There's obviously more to this so let's dive right in!
Sexual self-care is just as it sounds: caring for yourself, but most importantly considering your sexuality. When self-care conversations began to dominate during the pandemic, it was mainly in reference to mental wellness. But as we soon learned, sexuality is important to consider, too. It seems like a no-brainer now, but as discussed above, sex is considered taboo which doesn't leave room for much authentic expression.
To practice self-care, there are a few things you can do. A great way to start is by creating a sexual wellness routine. For example, making sure you masturbate weekly for stress relief -- with a good partnered f-ck every so often to get physical touch in. This was a major key for many women like myself following the overturning of Roe v. Wade, which took away our reproductive rights.
However, you can prioritize whatever your heart desires. A key element of sexual self-care, though, is getting tested regularly for sexually transmitted infections. If you're sexually active, this allows you to not only protect yourself, but your partner(s), too.
Need more advice? Here are three ways to practice sexual self-care.
Journaling. Daily meditations and journaling are a great method for remaining in tune with your desires and sex life. For your first journaling sesh, ask yourself: "Do I feel empowered during sex?" And see where your mind takes you.
Exercise regularly. If you've been struggling with low sex drive or desire, you know how important working out is. We know, bummer. But exercising has a host of benefits for your sex life like increasing blood flow, which can result in more intense orgasms. It also enhances stamina making positions like cowgirl, much more satisfying. Lastly, working out also helps connect you with your body and boost self-confidence.
Get tested regularly.
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